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Friday, December 8, 2017

Conversations with My Daughters x RoC®

As a woman over 40 I can honestly say the worst thing a person can say to me is that I look good for my age. And the funny thing is that it usually only happens after I tell them my age. It's that qualifier of "for my age" that always makes me cringe a little. Why can't a woman just look good? Period. While typically I'm complimented for my youthful appearance, unfortunately it's those backhanded compliments that tend to resonate. I'm so excited to team up with RoC® Skincare to share my ageist experiences - and the amazing new RoC® RETINOL CORREXION® MAX Daily Hydration Crème.

The last time I really cringed was last year at my younger brother's wedding. I was getting ready and the photographer showed up and asked me where to set up. I'm guessing I was the first person he bumped into so I pointed him in the direction of both the bride and groom who were also both getting ready and then he asked me; "Are you the mother of the groom?" Wait, what? I was so confused because while I'm technically old enough to have a child of marriageable age, it never occurred to me I looked old enough to have a 37-year-old son. I know they met before so he knew what my brother looked like (and if not his exact age, he must have had some kind of approximation). I told him I was the groom's slightly older 42-year-old sister and then to add insult to injury he answered, "Oh, you look good for your age." And in that moment I wanted nothing more than to punch him in the face. Thanks, dude. But I think what really made me mad is that I said nothing.

Digging into this phenomenon, RoC® partnered with Wakefield Research on a nationwide survey of 1,000 women aged 40+ to take a closer look at the impact of negative words on women as they age. This language is something that needs to change as it’s a problem women are facing every day. They found that 82% of women have been told that they look “great for their age” in the past year. Plus, a majority of women would rather not be served a compliment at all than receive one paired with the modifier “for your age.” I know that's true for me! In fact, women have received this backhanded compliment on average every six weeks in the past year. And even more frustrating, 87% of women agree that society expects women to act their age - but look younger. Crazy, right?

The goal of this research is to heighten awareness and pull back the curtain on these misguided negative phrases to change the current vernacular that can have a huge impact on a woman’s self- perception and how she defines her beauty. One’s beauty should be determined by her actions, her methods, but not her age.

I'm a mom of three, and I always have to consider how my actions and words will affect my littles. I try to teach my daughters body and beauty positivity. Every person is special in their own way. I want my girls to feel beautiful inside and out. I make sure to tell them everyday just how beautiful they are. I also try to give each of my kids special attention and often take them out on mommy and me dates to check in and have some serious and not-so-serious conversations alike. Little girls feel just as much pressure to be thin and beautiful - probably as much as older women do. I want Ella and Ava to learn from my example. I make sure they see me working out, eating right, indulging in moderation, and taking care of my skin. I've already taught 10-year-old Ella how to cleanse her face, properly remove makeup, moisturize and do an occasional face mask. If my girls see me taking care of myself, loving myself, then they'll understand just how important self-care is and make sure to love themselves too.

Most people ask me my beauty secret when they hear I'm 43. Truth is, so much of it is good genes (thanks mom and dad!) but I've also been taking care of my skin since I was 16 years old. I've been pretty lucky and other than a bout with adult acne in my 20s, I've had good skin most of my life. Over the years I've used skincare from everywhere. From drug stores to fancy department stores - both high and low end, and I've found that fancy packaging and/or a high price tag does not determine how effective a product can be. This isn't the first time I've used products from RoC® - and I was excited to try their new RETINOL CORREXION® MAX Daily Hydration Crème, which is available at national food, drug and mass merchandisers.

If you're not familiar with RoC®, it's a leading French brand with over 50 years experience developing products that guarantee visible and lasting results for healthier, younger looking skin. They were pioneers of stabilizing the first over-the-counter retinol for daily use. Every RoC® product is artfully-crafted and scientifically-tested to ensure nothing but the best in quality.

RoC®’s RETINOL CORREXION® MAX Daily Hydration Crème is a new dual-benefit cream offering the best of both worlds: a powerful retinol formula that reveals deeply hydrated and beautiful skin. Made with the maximum level of RoC® Retinol and a 24-hour moisturizing formula clinically proven to visibly reduce fine lines, wrinkles and dark spots while leaving skin looking healthy - in just one week, with with continued improvement each week. It's an exclusive oil-free and non-comedogenic formula won’t clog pores - perfect for my sensitive skin! I've been using it for about one week and already my skin feels more hydrated and refreshed. And I'm looking forward to seeing even more improvement in the coming weeks.

Join me and women like actress Thandie Newton who are flipping the script on this #ForYourAge conversation. To quote Thandie, “Life is an exciting, beautiful journey, and we discover ourselves in it a bit more every day. And choosing products to help us figure out who our best self is, love the journey and fearlessly progress toward the destination is where the future (and fun) of beauty should lie.”

You can read more about this campaign at

Have you ever been told that you look good 'for your age'? Next time that happens to me you better believe I won't remain silent. Join the movement and help us celebrate beauty at every age.

Thank you to RoC® Skincare for kindly sponsoring this post. All opinions are 100% honest & completely my own.  



  1. I've been feeling my age a lot in the last week. Not that 44 is old but I'm not 21 any more...

    So fun to see you last week. Keep sharing <3

  2. That cream sounds so good! I wish we focused on complimenting more internal things as whole. And love this cute date with Ella!

  3. Babe!! omg!! what!!!!? You look amazing and flawless! But dam the photographer needed some glasses! love your skin and your daughter is sooo adorable!



    1. Aww thanks! And I'm still confused about that situation...

  4. Ohhh Darling, you and your Daughter are sooo Sweet:)
    Love her Style and Yours tooo:)
    Need ro try that cream, super curious:)
    Happy Week
    Kisses Love Karina

  5. Love the beauty post. I messe always to get infos and care about my skin.I agree with you as a mother to teach your kids that they’re beautiful and to accept theirself. To be beautiful inside as outside and find the balance in the life
    Great leopard bag

  6. First of all, that photographer! I can't! I definitely think that the view point needs to change on how we discuss age. I remember going in with my mother when I was 20 to her botox appointment and being told that I needed to start now and she insisted by the time I'm 30 I will have wished I would have taken started botox at 20. Not that there's anything wrong with botox or wanting to look younger/age gracefully but I think there is SUCH a pressure to look young that's overly unnecessary and without meaning to we can insult someone or put pressure on them to live up to unreasonably standards. However, I do love to take care of my skin, and I think that's an important thing! RETINOL CORREXION® MAX Daily Hydration Crème seems perfect for the daily needs of our skin! I loved this post and thanks for continuing this great discussion!

    Manda |

    1. That's just insane. Botox at 20?? I'm waiting till at least 50 or 60 to consider it...

  7. If i could look as good as you do i will be so happy haha. And yes i feel the same way. When people say for your age. It’s like wait what does that mean? It sounds like a back handed compliment. Love that you teach your daughters positive things about beauty and appearance. Retinol correxion max sounds great for hydration and keeping the skin looking lively. Thanks for sharing

  8. The cream from ROC sounds amazing!! I have tried their eye cream before and I loved it so much! You are such a great mum to educate your daughter from young. I'm sure she's gonna turn out to be a greater blogger herself when she grows up!

    xx, Jessie

  9. You have just made me realize that saying "you look great for your age" is not a compliment. I feel so bad for saying that to people and will stop immediately! In other news, I may need this RoC®’s RETINOL CORREXION® MAX Daily Hydration Crème for my dry skin. As I get older each year, my skin tends to get dryer and dryer. This may help!

    1. Yep. But it's almost programmed into us so don't feel bad. And yes - all of a sudden around 40 mine got so dry. So annoying!

  10. I've been really into skin care these days. I didn't use to are that much, but now that I'm getting older I need to tend to my skin for sure. I will check out RoC's Retinol cream! You look great and as long as you're confident and happy, who cares what others think.

  11. To be honest, I hate when people ask my age. And I would punch this photographer, who would be so mean. He should've said apologizes, instead of saying that "you look great for your age". I have been trying to take care of my skin on daily basis, since wrinkles starting to show out. I need to try RoC®’s RETINOL CORREXION® MAX Daily Hydration Crème too.

  12. Oh Michelle, I really feel for you to be mistaken for Mother of the groom but the photographer probably doesn't know 54 from 42. Honestly I see your photos every week and I would have guess you are in your 30's. But I have heard many great things about RoC® it is a trust worthy drugstore brand and supposedly the eye cream is also AMAZING! What a nice conversation with your adorable and beautiful daughter. You two look too cute in your matching outfits.

    xo Sheree

    1. Thanks! I always try to coordinate our looks but she's getting picky LOL.

  13. First off I want to say I’m at obsessed with your daughters patched coat how gorgeous is that she is such a fashionista like her momma.
    I think people should perhaps keep their comments about age to themselves ha ha.
    I think teaching your children how to look after the skin is very important as at all ages we do feel the pressure to look good .
    I started to use retinol in my 30s and I think it definitely makes a difference for fine lines.
    Natalia k

    1. I just started retinol and I don't really see much of a difference yet but I'm hoping it will maintain the way I look now :)

  14. I've actually never heard of RoC before and I've found that as I'm getting closer to my 30s that I'm increasingly more hesitant to tell people my age and I don't like it when people assume either!

    PS. Lady you look amazing and love how you two have matching looks!!!

    H x

    1. Really? For me age was only a factor when I was younger and looked like child LOL. Now I wear it like a badge on honor :)

  15. Roc is one of the best skincare lines in the market. I have tried different products from them and the quality is amazing. I personally adore the fact that you include your daughter in this post. What a better teacher than her beautiful mother to teach her how to take care of herself. You two look so pretty and she has such a great sense of style at her age! Love it!

  16. Love this post of you and your daughter! You two are mommy and me goals! Also love Roc products!

    xo, Jennifer

  17. You definitely do not look 40! I'm glad you spend time with your daughter, that's great. xo, Suzanne


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